A few weeks ago, Adam and I decided that it was time to take away the binky. We started out by only letting her have it at bed time and naps and then one day I tried not giving it to her at all. She went for 2 days straight without her binky. After those 2 days she started screaming every time we would put her to bed, both naps and for the night. She never has been a crier when it came to bed so I decided to give it back for bed and bed only. This is when the "relapse" happened. She now has one all day....I know, I know I am a bad mom! She is asking for a binky all day long and when I say no she cries and screams. I just don't know what to do. I feel bad that I have caved but I can't stand the crying and screaming. What do I do? Now for everyone that is going to give me their advice (which I want) keep in mind that I also have a 3 month old. So, this is my plea......help me anyone who has dealt with the binky before.Monday, January 26, 2009
Relapse
A few weeks ago, Adam and I decided that it was time to take away the binky. We started out by only letting her have it at bed time and naps and then one day I tried not giving it to her at all. She went for 2 days straight without her binky. After those 2 days she started screaming every time we would put her to bed, both naps and for the night. She never has been a crier when it came to bed so I decided to give it back for bed and bed only. This is when the "relapse" happened. She now has one all day....I know, I know I am a bad mom! She is asking for a binky all day long and when I say no she cries and screams. I just don't know what to do. I feel bad that I have caved but I can't stand the crying and screaming. What do I do? Now for everyone that is going to give me their advice (which I want) keep in mind that I also have a 3 month old. So, this is my plea......help me anyone who has dealt with the binky before.
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ok.....I have two opposing ideas :)
I have a friend who had the "binky fairy" come take all the binkies. She had her daughter help her gather up all the binkies into a bag and leave them on a tree outside (might be a little cold for that :) and the next morning they were gone, but there was a big girl toy in their place, because she was such a big girl now, she didn't need binkies and could have this toy. She said it worked like a charm.
Eligh was my only binky baby, and we didn't take his binkie away until he was about 2 1/2 or 3 (I can't remember exactly) and it wasn't too hard because we were able to reason with him at that point. He had a little sore on his mouth and we told him it was because of the binky (not sure if it really was) and he decided it wasn't worth it and we took them away. Don't know if it's much help, but those are my experiences/ideas :) Good luck!!!
This is so funny because I have a dual pacifier picture of Ella just like this! Ella has struggled with this because sometimes we've broken the bedtime pacifier rule when she's been sick. I just go back to reinforcing that it's just for nighttime and naps and tried to make taking it out of her mouth part of a fun routine. Most recently, I started having her hand her pacifier and the bunny she sleeps with to me when she wakes up. I take the "packy" and put it on the bunny's ear and then place it on her dresser where she can't reach it. She likes the routine and knowing what to expect. I want to get rid of it, but she so looks forward to it and sometimes goes down for a nap just to get it. I feel for you!
I don't have any personal advice, because McKenzie has been the only one that has taken a binky. We just took it away from her one day. We didn't have any other kids at the time, so it was a little easier.
My friend did this with her boy and it worked. There was a new baby born in their ward and my friend told her son, "see binkies are for babies." I think he thought about it for a couple days, then he gathered all his binkies in a bag and then gave them to the baby.
Another friend of ours told their boy that binkies were gross. After that he didn't want it anymore.
I like the Binky fairy idea I think that's really cute idea. I don't know how helpful I was, but here's a few more ideas. Good Luck! I can totally relate, because I DO NOT like the crying!
Oh girl you are not a bad mom at all! I remember one time I was telling my sister about something that we were doing... I don't remember what even! And she said "You do what you have to do!" And I think that is so true! You really have to do what's best for your family at that time! And really - it could be worse, right? I wish I could give some specific advice, but I don't have too much experience with binkis (holy cow- I almost mispelled that & wrote "Bikinis" yikes!!), but if it is comforting her & giving you some peace & quiet, why not?! Maybe you can just try again a little later!?! :) Sorry - that probably was not helpful! But just know that most of us moms do something like that (binki, baby sleeping with us, etc!) because we have to make things work somehow!! :)
i don't know. and i worry about this myself. let me know what ends up working for you!
i have heard of someone cutting up the sucker parts and telling the kid they were broken and then enforcing the idea that they were only for babies. i don't know how well this would work though when you have a baby that probably takes a binky...
Adrienne had a binky until she was 4, then she had one hidden under her mattress. I think if they use it to go to sleep or if they are upset it is fine. Keep it in her crib to use. Adrie turned out ok, some kids need it and some don't. Follow your heart, you are a great mom. Don't be afraid to change your mind as you parent. love, deanne
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